Today we’re gonna talk about the M-word. Love the M-word!
You started a business. Maybe you’re like me and you have a home office, 10’x10’.
Maybe it’s a little bigger, maybe it’s a little bit smaller, but all of a sudden, it feels like a jail cell. You’re confined in the room and you’re confined in your mind. When you started, it looked really easy, right? So many people are achieving success!
You’ve probably bought courses. I bought dozens and dozens, some of which I didn’t even open. I saw some people making X amount of dollars by having one hundred thousand followers on Instagram, and thought, “I better buy that Instagram course and do things like they are”. How many of us have done that? What was missing?
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The first thing we need to understand is that what you saw was probably not the truth, but was just content. What people are putting out is content, and what you’re gathering is content – but that content without the process behind it is absolutely useless for you. That course is going to give you no value if:
- You’re new and your confidence is lacking
- Your limiting beliefs are dragging you through the mud
- You’ve go not accountability system or support
If you’re getting a hint that that’s true, and the courses aren’t helping anymore, what do you do?
Over the past few months, I’ve been really digging into the M-word – modeling. You’ve got to get in a group where people are telling the truth about what really is going on out there – both the good and the ugly. There are things happening behind the scenes in people’s businesses that you would not have signed up for if you knew beforehand what it was actually going to be like. We signed on to become a freelancer because we want freedom, yet we end up being the absolute furthest thing from free.
Growth is a really big value of mine, but had I known business was going to take this amount of growth, I might have stayed working for my 9-5, even though I didn’t like the people I was working with and really hated what I was doing. At least when my work day was over, I was done! When you own your own business, that’s a very difficult thing to do, especially if you’re lacking some of the basics.
So why is modeling so important? Let me give you a couple of examples from what I’ve seen recently. In one of the groups I’m in, a gentleman said, “I’m going to quit. This is enough. I tried to give my course away for free, and nobody would take it”. Free was six months or a year ago, and people don’t want free anymore – but he didn’t know that. If you take a good look, he’s missing value. He doesn’t understand the value of what it is that he’s offering to the world. He has no one to bounce ideas off of. He’s got no one to talk to. Somebody in his circle could have told him that wasn’t the best way to go. Those hits to your self-confidence, that rejection, we can only take so much. So we’ve got to be very careful.
And then there’s the other side, when you’ve been at this for a while. That One Funnel Away hasn’t quite taken off, and you begin to wonder if it ever will. You begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. And if you’re doing nothing wrong, what if you just quit too soon? Do you have somewhere to get feedback, or someone that you can bounce these ideas off of?
There is a lady in a mastermind group that I’m a part of, and after watching her struggle for a year and a half, she brought in eighty thousand dollars US in the last month with her funnel. It gives you hope!
This journey that you and I are on is not for the faint of heart. I’ve said that over and over again. This is the most difficult thing that I’ve ever undertaken.
I was talking to a client of mine yesterday and said to her, “You just need to step into what I’m asking you to do. The growth right now is extremely painful. You’re confused. You’re not really growing and learning if you’re not confused along this path. You’ve got to have someone that you can trust to lead you”.
I’ve been able to save my marriage, my home, and my life. At one point, I literally wanted to die. My brain wanted to take me out. It just wasn’t able to manage my own thinking. Did you know that’s what people really believe and are struggling with?
The other thing that was really important for this client was to bring reality into her behaviour. If she continues doing what she’s doing, she’s going to be in some serious trouble. To wake her up, I told her “By May 30th, I want you to have a plan in place. What are you going to do with your stuff? Because you’re not going to have a home to live in.” She was taken aback, but that is exactly where her behaviour is leading her.
I’m not going to be the one that will tell you everything is fine, or to take another couple of weeks to think things through. Everyone else in her life was telling her that she’s already working really hard, that she needed to quit. None of that is really the advice that she needs, so it’s really, really important for you to model someone.
So how do you do that? I would love for you to get in a group of people who are telling the truth or interview a couple of people that you look up to and see if you get to the truth of what it’s like on a daily basis.
See what it’s like, how they handle someone coming at their character and their integrity, hammering it over and over and over again. How do they manage? I have a mentor in my life and the very first question I asked her was, “What in the world, how do you get where you are having gone through what you’ve gone through? I don’t want fluff answers, I need the truth and I pushed for it”, and it was faith.
She has a level of faith that I do not have and it was really interesting to see that that’s what it was as opposed to skillset, money, privilege, this, this, all of the stuff that we tell ourselves.
There’s something inside of each and every one of us that are successful.
You need to find out what that is. For me, it’s pure guts. I’m not gonna stop. Most people in this journey stop way to soon.
So, I hope this is helpful. I want you to model success. I don’t want you to get more content, I want you to find out the process. What is it on a daily basis that gets these people up and gets them moving? What is happening in their mindset and in their environment? Who’s around them? What are they listening to? Find out what’s really going on, find the truth. From there you’ll be able to build a business and then this 10’x10’ cell that you’re living in will actually be the freedom that you’re looking for.