I have bad news. There’s a 99.9% chance that your brain is conspiring to sabotage any and all success you’re working to have.
Are you shocked?
You’ve noticed the negative thoughts that pop in your head every time you think of an amazing new business idea, right?
Or when you get an idea and literally within 5 SECONDS you’ve talked yourself out of it.
“It would probably be too hard to make happen.”
“I don’t have enough experience to do it.”
Your Brain: The Ultimate Frenemy
Not everything that you think is true or valid. The thoughts that swirl around in your head on a daily basis are mainly generated from your feelings and emotional state, rather than the reality of your environment around you.
Think about and consider this- what if your perspective of the world is flawed and as a result you aren’t moving forward at the pace and with the success you expect? What if you’re still carrying around a belief system that no longer serves you? For example, let’s say when you were younger money was tight. Everytime you asked your mom for something at the store she told you that she couldn’t afford it. At home, you saw her constantly exhausted from working and overheard conversations of your parents arguing about money. Now as an adult, you struggle with money and believe that there’s just never enough of it.
Your Brain is the “Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire” Enemy to Your Success
What if the reality is that that’s a false belief system? What if that’s not true at all and there is an unlimited reservoir of money-making opportunities surrounding you but you can’t see it because of this belief system?
These flaws in our thinking are known as cognitive distortions or thinking errors. They are the destroyer of dreams and the boogeymen of our nightmares. That’s because it doesn’t just trick you into believing a lie, it’s so subtle that we’ll carry that lie with us throughout most of our lives without ever questioning it.
Everything always begins with a thought. How we think and how we interpret the world around us influences how we feel. And how we feel stirs up our emotions. Then we use those emotions as a filter to help us interpret our life experiences. Of course, the majority of the time, these interpretations are inaccurate and usually formed by only receiving partial information from a much bigger picture.
In fact, they can prevent us from seeing the world “how it is,” and instead force us to perceive the world based on “how we are.” And of course how we are depends entirely on how we process the world, which of course begins with the thoughts we allow ourselves to dwell upon.
Fear or Fact? This is How Your Brain Conspires to Sabotage Your Success
Are you a victim of any of these cognitive distortions? Take a look:
All-or-Nothing Thinking: Black and white thinking. Either I do it right or not at all.
“I have to do things perfectly and anything less is a failure.”
Focusing on the Negatives: Overgeneralization. Seeing a pattern based on a single event or being overly broad with conclusions we draw.
“Nothing goes my way. It feels like one disappointment after another.”
Another variation is being overly judgmental: “The world is falling apart. I don’t like what I see around me.”
Disqualifying the Positives: Discounting the good things that have happened or that you have done for some reason or another.
“That doesn’t count.”
Negative Self-Labeling: Only paying attention to certain types of evidence. Noticing our failures and not seeing our successes.
“I’m a failure. If people knew the real me, they wouldn’t like me. I am flawed.”
Catastrophizing: Blowing things out of proportion or inappropriately shrinking things to make them seem less important.
“If something is going to happen, it’ll probably be the worst-case scenario.”
“It isn’t that bad.”
Excessive Need for Approval: “I can only be happy if people like me. If someone is upset, it’s probably my fault.”
Jumping to Conclusions: Mind reading – imagining we know what others are thinking. Fortune telling – predicting the future. Believing we know what will happen.
“I can tell people don’t like me because of the way they behave.”
“I am going to fail.”
Should Statements: Using critical words like “should”, “must”, or “ought” can make us feel guilty or feel like we have already failed. When we apply should to other people the result is often frustration.
“People should be fair and when they are not they should be punished.”
Disqualifying the Present: “I’ll relax later. But first I have to rush to finish this.”
Dwelling on the Past: “If I dwell on why I’m unhappy and what went wrong, maybe I’ll feel better.”
Pessimism: “Life is a struggle. I don’t think we are meant to be happy. I don’t trust people who are happy. If something good happens in my life, I usually have to pay for it with something bad.”
Labelling: Assigning labels to ourselves or other people.
“I’m a loser.” “I’m completely useless.” “You’re such an idiot.”
Emotional Reasoning: Assuming that because we feel a certain way what we think must be true.
“I feel embarrassed so, I must be an idiot.”
Any of those resonate?
I’m here to tell you there’s great news! You can take charge of your thoughts by working through these cognitive distortions, and you take charge of your life. Here’s how:
- Identify in the moment when you’re having a negative thought or false belief.
- Analyze the thought and the exact phrasing you heard it in your head.
- Ask yourself, “Is this true right now in the present?”
- If the answer is no, reframe the statement to reflect what is true.
- Repeat it to yourself 30 times so that it gets stored in your long term memory bank.
- If the answer is yes, ask yourself follow-up questions like, “what evidence tells me this particular belief is true? “Is it serving me in a positive or negative way?” “How do I feel about myself accepting this belief?”
Pretty simple, right? That’s the biggest secret– changing your mindset and reprogramming your brain can be an instant change if you allow yourself to believe that it can.
Here’s your homework– make a list of all the false beliefs you think you have. Then go down the list and question each one. Don’t move to the next one until you are satisfied you’ve resolved the previous one. When you get to the end of your list, implement a daily habit of repeating out loud your new belief systems until you have said them 30 times..
Let me know in the comments how this technique worked for you, and as always here’s to your success!
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